Enrich your life through change

When it comes to change, most of us are having hard times daring to do that little step into the unknown. Staying as we are with the things we know, feels way more comfortable than changing something for ... ... what? The better? Who knows, right?

The uncertainty about an eventual terrible outcome refrains us from doing, even if we know that the current situation doesn't please us at all.

“Nothing on this earth is standing still. It is either growing or it is dying. No matter if it’s a tree or a human being.” ― Lou Holtz

Birth -> growth / change -> death. This is a cosmic rule that no-one can change for as much as we would love to; Sometimes.

Imagine everything would remain the same through and through. The beauty we would miss out on watching trees changing colors as the seasons pass!

“If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got.” ― Henry Ford

Recently, I met someone on the beach who organizes dinner rallies around the island. While small-talking, he told me a story that reminded me how staying in our comfort zone can mean missing out on beautiful experiences.

He said it isn't always easy to find interested people for the rallies, since most are coming every year to the island. They go to the same hotels and visit the same restaurants, since over time, they became friends.

True, I thought; While I realized I behave likewise most of the time.

“You do not just wake up and become the butterfly. Growth is a process.” ― Rupi Kaur

Of course, not everything happening or undertaking is beautiful or the way we wish it to become right from the beginning. The metamorphosis a caterpillar goes through to end up as a butterfly is a beautiful parable. Every step in it counts. Without them, there would be no butterfly.

Yes, it can feel cumbersome whenever we think about changing something we don't agree with anymore and wish for the better. The problem is that we focus too much on everything that goes with the change. At the end, it becomes an unpassable obstacle and we give up before we even start.

Step by step.

Thinking about it, it doesn't take much to introduce a change in our life. I remember during my depressive period how beneficial it was by simply choosing a different road to drive to the office than the one I usually took.

"Be daring, be different, be anything that will assert integrity of purpose and imaginative vision against the play-it-safers..."― Cecil Beaton

Only 3 months ago, I couldn't imagine embarking on the journey I'm currently on. And now, I'm in the middle of it. I had been working in the information technology industry, unhappy for years, purposeless. Never changed it, since I didn't know what else to do.

Going against my own beliefs with how I lived my life, I knew I had to change. Thanks to depression and how the "now" keeps me out of it, I finally found purpose again through helping others while sharing my experiences.

From a project manager to a what? Life-coach? Really? With no skills and no background in this area, except of 42 years' worth of life experiences. How shall I get there? The idea of talking to people, whether it's in person or through a recording, made me petrified. Unimaginable back then.

“Chew off a little every day, because it’s hard to swallow a whole pie at once.”― Richelle E. Goodrich

Of course, if we have an idea, we visualize how the result "should" look like following our own "ideal". This self-created ideal is something that everyone could achieve but ourselves.

So, yes, step by step.

Before talking to someone, it's easier to write; I thought. Here we go. I had my first step.

I can't tell how much my life has changed for good since I dared going that way and to start benow.life! Compassion in what I'm doing is something I haven't felt since I've started software development 22 years ago.

Its bliss being able to observe myself growing with every new post I write. Growing... ...something I haven't felt for years.

Sensing compassion, self-confidence, motivation, and purpose while writing.

I... ... who hated writing.

Embrace change. It's the only way to grow.

Everything you ever wanted is on the other side of fear.

Dare... ... step by step, but dare.